You’ve reached the goal that you’ve set for yourself. At last you’ve made it! But then you can often feel deflated when the initial euphoria of getting there wears off. All the effort and energy, the focus and putting aside of other things and then it’s done. Earlier this year I started walking the Thames Path, at the end of November I got to the end (or the beginning if walking the other way). So here are some thoughts on using successful completion for more than an excuse for one too many beers and to vanish those post achievement blues.
There is a street on the edge of Paris called Bad Advice (Rue Mauconseil). Along with a cafe tabac and the local socialist party offices there is a butchers. Looking at the various cuts of beef there was also something else which I hadn’t eaten and so paused to think – was it time to try some horse?
A friend once picked the ball from roulette wheel to get himself banned from a casino. It was one way of burning a bridge, creating a situation from where there is no going back. If you ever think that you need to make a break and put yourself in a no going back situation be sure to do it in a way that’s creative, fun and doesn’t generate you a whole pile or regret.
The great thing about living on a island – for however long – is that is imposes boundaries, limitations and reduces the choices you have.
When Robert Pirsig wrote Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance he wasn’t really talking about motorbikes though there’s some useful lessons for mechanics. So having recently been back on the tools tinkering with bicycles (of the pedal power kind) it’s no surprise that it’s highlighted some very important personal life lessons.
You hear stories about people who are successful in business and how they started with nothing – as though that makes their success even more worthy of adulation. What those observations miss is that the success was often because they started with nothing. Starting with nothing can help you achieve your goals (they don’t have to be business ones) in the following ways:
Sometimes it feels like there are too many things to change. You face obstacles without allies to support you. You are overwhelmed with choices of what to do and this is over-laid with a gnawing doubt that none of what you do really matters. It feels like you’re pushing back a tide, with nothing you can control or influence. You don’t feel you’re making a difference. Defeated you can snap and growl like a cornered wild animal or you can slide into a hopeless pit of despair and despondency. You can anesthetize you self with drink, drugs, material gain or whatever hedonistic consumption you want but all this does is further trap you. You fall into a cycle of passivity where the treadmill of paid work is needed to pay for the compensating treats that numb the angst and distract you from those buried ambitions to change the world. You await the white knight or miracle to get you on your way but nothing happens. There is though a different approach…
The ‘net is clogged with snake oil sellers encouraging the belief that simply creating a digital product and presence is the path to riches. Whether that’s creative writing, music videos, web design, blog consulting, life coaching master classes or any other of a myriad of digitized businesses it seems you can’t fail to make a phenomenal living – just be sure to sign up to the $99 premium package.
I’m an occasional reader of poetry. I’m starting to know what I like and what I think makes for a poet worth reading. My current favorite is Ian McMillan, who comes from Barnsley in Yorkshire.
It was one of those splendid coincidences that meant I caught him on the TV the other Saturday morning (I never watch TV at that time but we were in a hotel and my wife was as ever in search of the latest weather news) having just read one of his collections that week.
It’s February and if you’re finding that the optimism you started the year with is starting to fade and the progress you thought you would be making towards that cherished personal goal (you know the one you promised yourself that you would do this year) is not great then it’s time to reboot yourself and your plans. I’ve put together 10 tried and tested tactics that will help you achieve those goals you really want reach.